Thursday, October 9, 2014

I Love You A Bushel and A Peck and A Hug Around the Neck

It has been a long time since I posted anything. Things have been anything but boring, but I haven't been able to find the words so I took a break. 

My dad had just started treatments preparing him for his stem cell transplant the last time I posted.  He had been in remission from Hodgkins Lymphoma, but we found out it had returned when they did his 3 month scan. These last few months have been hard.  The worst thing about cancer is watching those you love go through so much in an effort to get better.  I have always known my dad is strong, but he has shown so much faith and courage these last two years that are simply inspiring.  My mom has never been anything but a strong woman in my eyes.  She is the one who keeps things going.  She isn't one to sit around, she gets out there and just does what needs to be done.  My older son gets that from her and it is an amazing gift. My younger son has my dad's sense of humor, which he has kept throughout his treatments.  My daughter has my mom's nurturing and my dad's sensitive heart.

Dad had his stem cell transplant, using his own cells, July 3rd.  I am not going to lie, it was very hard.  He was a complete trooper, but it is definitely a process that takes a lot of time to recover from. I don't say that to discourage anyone, nothing about cancer is easy. My mom kept him going.  He spent some time in the hospital, but they had to make about a 30 mile trip every morning for weeks for him to get checked. On weekends and holidays, no break. They were making sure he didn't have a fever, sometimes he needed blood and platelets, and just monitoring him for any side effects.  Mom made sure he did everything he was supposed to even when I know he had to feel terrible.

I wasn't going to say anything about his progress here or on Facebook.  Recently, I have had friends lose parents or find that loved ones are sick.  Out of respect and consideration, I didn't want to post anything but at the same time I feel like giving a BIG shout out of thanks to God.  Dad had his 3 month scan last Friday and we found out this Tuesday he is in remission.  We were so scared, this was the scan last time that we found out it was back.  We knew he had gotten back into remission before the transplant and that the transplant itself was a success, but we had no idea what it did to the cancer.  I feel very guilty announcing great news while so many people I know and care about have gotten bad news, but I do feel like I need to give God all the glory any way I can.  I have so many friends and family members on Facebook that have kept up with Dad, prayed for him, and because of the prayers God gave us good news.  As much as I appreciate his medical team, I owe all of my thankfulness to God. We don't know what the next 3 month scan will bring, we have learned a lot can happen in 3 months, but I am so thankful that for now he is well and has somewhat of a break. His immunity is still extremely low so we have to be careful while he is still building his body back up from the transplant.  All Dad could say after he got the news was that is was good news because of all the prayers and God's hand on his healing.  I feel like I have to acknowledge the power of prayer and faith. My kids and nieces and nephews have a very strong faith, but my Dad made sure they knew who was responsible for a clear scan.

There is a lot going on in the world today. We all have everyday things we pray about.  It is important Now, more than ever , we desperately need to stand up and demand our right to pray whenever and wherever we want to.

This was my Facebook post:

I live on the same street with my family and see them everyday.  Although I see him and talk to him I got to hug my dad this Tuesday for the first time in months.  It is easy to take for granted human contact and something as simple and powerful as a hug.  Especially when you need them most.

I wasn't going to say anything on Facebook or on my blog.  I have friends that have recently lost a parent or loved ones and others who have loved ones fighting for their lives or getting a very difficult diagnosis.  Out of respect and consideration I didn't want to post.  We don't know what the future holds and we have learned that a lot can happen in 3 months, but my dad just had his 3 month scan after the stem cell transplant and for now he is in remission. He goes back in 3 months and we are prepared for options if it comes back again but for right now we are just so thankful he is well and has a break.  Like I said, I feel guilty posting when I see others hurting, but I feel like I need to shout out and give God all the glory. The only thing my dad kept saying the day he got the good news was it was because of God and all the prayers everyone has said for him. He says it is unreal the feeling knowing he has so many people praying for him and that care about him.  So many of you have asked me about him and if you are one of the poor people I have broken down crying on, you have probably been afraid to ask.  I just want us to be able to openly thank God and everyone for the prayers (and shoulders!).  I also want those of you mourning and/or hurting for a loved one to know you are in my prayers. There is a lot going on in this world right now and we need to stand up and keep our rights to pray wherever and whenever we want to. We also need to be good to each other. There is enough meanness coming our way without us being ugly to each other especially for no reason.  In the end, it is all up to God and we need faith and prayer now more than ever.  I honestly don't know how people make it in this world without Him.

Friday, March 21, 2014

Freaky Friday?... Nah! Fantastic Friday!

     I am changing it up today.  I love my Freaky Friday, but today is more of a Fantastic Friday so I am going with that!

     I have not felt good all week.  All of my health issues decided to flare at once and I have just felt awful.  I just rested and rode it out and after going to bed early last night I woke up feeling so much better.  I have learned when I have those bad days I have to just stop and drink tons of water and eat healthy and it will pass.  I am so glad it did because we have a lot of fun things going on this weekend and I don't want to miss any of it.

     My boys are having friends over and that is always fun.  They have the sweetest, most polite friends and it is always a good weekend when they have them over.  I let them take over the house and they eat, play video games, eat, play basketball, eat, ride the golf cart, and did I mention eat?!  I love watching growing boys eat.  It is almost a sport, but I like to see them eat.  They always do enough to work it off so it evens out.  In a few weeks my mom's pool next door will be ready so they can add swimming to their activity list!

     My dad had his second series of treatment this week so I am sure part of my feeling better is knowing he has this past week behind him.  It may hit him today and tomorrow and he may feel really bad like last time, but we know he will be better next week before he has to do it again the week after next.  They put him in the hospital for the 24 hour treatment, but they are very close to home and I think it really helps keeping him checked on and getting fluids during those hard hours.  It takes some off of my mom knowing he is being carefully watched while getting that heavy dose.  It just hopefully gets us one step closer to having him in remission for the stem cell transplant.  That is going to be hard, but every day is hopefully one step closer to having him healed.

     I love my Facebook. It is fun and I love being connected with so many family members and friends.  I am on there probably too much, but for some reason I looked at it not long after I woke up. I hardly ever do that.  When I feel that urge to look there is usually something I see that is important so I figure it is my intuition and I just go with it!  That was the case this morning!

     I have a dear, dear friend I love very much.  Our families have been friends for years.  Her dad delivered me, my sister and brother.  Her brother and my aunt were best friends in high school and still very close and I babysat her children and nephew.  There is just a friendship and love between our families that has been there for years.  She has so bravely fought ovarian cancer and recently had a recurrence in a lymph node.  She has fought this so hard and the treatments have definitely been a test.  But cancer messed with the wrong lady!  Right there on top of my newsfeed very first thing this morning I read she is in remission!  I felt such a relief for her and her sweet family.  She has been such a source of strength for many people going through their own battle.  As a lifelong educator, she is still educating, God is just using the gift He gave her of educating and encouraging others in such a special way.  During her own fight she has been a constant comfort to me while watching my dad fight.  I love this woman and her courage and I am very proud of her!  I know how happy her sweet family has to be right now.

     I guess I better get off my computer and get on with this Fantastic, Blessed Friday!  I am so thankful for every day with family and friends.  Things are not always easy but God is always there.  I have always heard that God doesn't give us more than we can handle and "if He brings us to it, He can bring us through it."  I have recently seen or heard many times something different that makes more sense.  God does give us more than we can handle because He doesn't want us to handle it ourselves but depend on Him.  I think this makes perfect sense.  The more I let go and let God, the more things just fall into place.  Not only is it better than me trying to make things work out, it is so much more peaceful.  Try it.  Let go and let God.  It is so freeing and has so much better results!

Happy, Happy Friday and I hope you have a great, blessed weekend!

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Cancer Symptoms Women Might Miss

Cancer Symptoms Women Might Miss

     I just happened to see this article today and it has a lot of really good information.  Parents stay so busy and often times don't notice things we might should about our health or if we do happen to notice something we might pass it off as something else or be afraid to address it.  When my dad found his lump in the collarbone area it was last January and our family had passed around a cold.  He thought the nodes were swollen because of being sick but when they were still there a few weeks later he brought it up at a regular doctor visit. 

     A lot of times we notice things that don't feel right.  It is scary when we do, but many times it is something bothersome but not serious.  This article did a good job of listing other health issues that could cause the problems. My kids know my favorite saying is "better safe than sorry."  We should always get things checked out just to be safe.  If it is serious, the sooner the better and if it isn't serious it is still something that might prevent you from enjoying all the things around you that make life worth living.

     I was diagnosed a few months ago with Interstitial Cystitis.  It is a very painful bladder condition.  The pain feels like pelvic pain and is often hard to diagnose.  My doctor that is treating me for it told me it can take some women 3-5 years of living with it before they find out it is IC.  I thought mine was ovarian cysts. It definitely affects my quality of life, but I am being treated now that I know what it is and I have greatly improved.  Some health issues aren't fun to talk about, but sometimes sharing information is helpful to someone else suffering.  This is the best link for IC:
There are many foods and drinks that affect this condition.

     If you are interested, just click on the title or the highlighted word article above and it will take you to the article.

     A little humor never hurt anyone.





Friday, March 14, 2014

Freaky Friday..... Scary Kids

     I found this today and it fits in with creepy kids and things they say that freak me out.

When You See What These Kids Said, You'll Want To Run. Number 5 Is Horrifying.



     Just in this last week one of my kids, I won't say which one asked me, "How much money does a hit man make?"  I am not joking.  I don't even remember what I said but, I haven't slept really good since.  I am sure it was just a hypothetical question.

Thursday, March 13, 2014

The Ring!

     It's not what you think.  Most girls dream about their proposal and wedding from as early as they know what a proposal and wedding are.  The ring I am talking about is what most boys dream about.  Especially high school boys.  Especially football players.  AND, their dads from the moment they know they are having a son.

     I am not talking about the NFL, but my 17 year old son's high school football team won the state championship and they got their rings last night.  This is a great group of young men and it was a lot of fun watching their excitement as they saw their ring for the first time.  It is also a proud moment for parents.  I am proud of my son in a lot of ways, but he had a great season.

     He was so much fun to watch play this past season because of his love and heart for the game.  He is a great player, but most importantly, he is a team player.  He is one of those that gets everyone pumped up when they need it.  He plays offensive guard so his position doesn't get much attention.  They are crucial for scoring, but don't always get a lot of credit.  He had a game during the season that was on a public tv channel and we got texts at the game from people at home watching because his name was announced a few times.  It happened again during the state championship game. That was really great for him because sometimes the linemen don't get a lot of praise.  He works hard, though.  He doesn't miss a practice and won't tell you most of the time if he is hurting.  He had an ankle sprain during the season and I knew he was hurting because he normally just sucks it up and keeps going.

     He is just a junior so he has another high school season.  My best advice to him is to enjoy every minute of the next year.  He has a huge heart for the sport, but he has an even bigger heart for the Lord. I am proud of him for so many things, but he wants to be a youth minister and that goal is what I am most proud of.  He is a great kid and I am sure God has some really great things ahead for him.  I always joke about his appetite.  Because he is so active, he eats A LOT.  It doesn't matter where he is and what meal it is, he is going to pray before he eats.

      All three of my kids are practically grown and so much taller than me.  I love when I get a glimpse of their childhood faces and ways.  I still know when he is in deep thought.  I was in his truck with him the other day and I saw that little boy for a second.  He did something that he used to do all the time when he was little with his ear and it was like he was 5 again for just a couple of sweet seconds.  It is always so sweet when he sits down in the den to eat a meal or snack.  I try not to let him see me watching, but he sits down and closes his eyes and prays before he eats.

     He has very strong convictions and a very strong faith and it is what makes him Shane.  I have been watching him the last couple of years and I am not surprised at all in what he wants to do when he is older.  He is an amazing role model to his little cousins and his whole family couldn't be more proud of him.  He was holding my brother's little girl one day and she was so funny.  He was holding and hugging her and she kept saying, "Stop" while all the time grinning and leaning into him. She loved it, but didn't want to act like it.  He knew and just smiled back and kept hugging her!

This was taken right after the game.  He was so excited.  He was in a daze the rest of the night.  He
played a great game!  When we got home we watched the game on tv. I had recorded it and was so glad I did.  We got to see and hear the announcer replaying the play he was praised for. 

This was taken last night at the ring ceremony.  They showed a highlight video, the head coach spoke, and it was just a great night for all of the boys.  He wore his ring from last year, but this year's ring 
has a whole different meaning for him.

Pretty handsome, huh?

I am so proud of you and love you very much, Shane.  You are going to be such a positive influence and greatly impact the lives of the kids you will mentor in the future.  You have heard God calling you to minister to young kids and I can't imagine you doing anything you would be better at or more rewarding.

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Wednesday, March 12, 2014

We Need James Bond and Batman

    My paranoia is working over time, but how in the world do you lose a whole, big plane?  I am not being funny, there are a lot of families just scared and frustrated that they can't find loved ones.  I just don't understand with all the technology there is today how something that big disappears?!

     We have all kinds of tracking devices. This plane wasn't a small, private one, so it had to have some kind of clearance or communication before taking off.  They said this morning family members are calling cell phones and they are ringing, but not being answered.  They acted like that didn't mean anything, but it doesn't really sound right.

     I saw something the other day on the news about new gps tracking for police.  Something shoots out all James Bond style out of the front of the police car and sticks to the car they are following.  There is a video you can watch to see this new Batman form of a police chase.

     It is almost scary the way people can track you now.  It am just freaked out by On Star.  At just the push of a button, someone answers, "Hello, Ms. Robinson, how are you today?"  It was always creepy when my kids were younger because I always wondered if they ever listened in. I was the opposite of most parents.  Instead of getting them in the car to discipline them in fear of being seen and judged, I would take them OUT of the car so I couldn't be heard!  I never did anything to hide, but one day I was at the grocery store and one of the kids acted awful the whole time we were in there.  I got them to the parking lot and fussed at him while getting him in the car.  This old man looked at me like I was the worst mom in the world.  He was going into the store and I just said, "You should have been in there sooner when he kept running from me." And then I think I said to myself, "like you have EVER been in the store by yourself with little ones, and if so you can't probably remember."  That was mean, I know, but I hate it when people judge when they have no idea about the situation.

Of  course, this wasn't the man and I was probably being a little paranoid that day.  I have always hated disciplining my kids in public, but this one went through a phase of trying to run from me.  I am sure the look wasn't really this bad, but it felt like it.

      I'll be honest, if I was an On Star worker and got bored I would probably feel tempted to do a little checking in on people.  Wouldn't you?  My luck I would hear a mafia hit or something and be REALLY paranoid they knew I knew. I wouldn't hear some couple in an entertaining argument, I would hear something awful and out of nervousness hit the button that talks to them. And if they are really good mafia, they would be able to reverse track me on On Star.  Good thing I am in my own little world and don't often come out of it.

     Seriously, though, I hope they find the plane soon.  This has to be awful for the families.  It just doesn't make sense.  If they can track volcanoes in the ocean surely they can find a plane.  They are covering a large area looking so maybe these families will have some answers soon.  I am going to say what has been said a million times, but when are they going to start making planes out of what they make the black box out of?  Which in this case, is missing too.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

It's Not Okay

     I consider The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, The Real Housewives series, and many other reality shows guilty pleasures.  It is crazy to try to make sense of any of them.  I think sometimes we get maybe a glimpse of the full picture, but editing makes the show more fun.  We have to realize these are real people with real feelings, but nobody forced them to put themselves out there.

     There have been good bachelors and bachelorettes and there have been bad bachelors and bachelorettes.  Then, you have Juan Pablo.  Not only did his accent and phrases lose their appeal towards the end, we ended up with what seems to be a  fake.  I know these girls are optimistic and looking for love, but anyone with any heart hates to see a girl taken advantage of and mistreated. Not only was Sharleen above him as far as maturity, but she ran circles around him intellectually.


    It is unrealistic to think you can find true love this way.  It has worked for a slim few, but it would be hard enough to find someone new, fall in love and get engaged in a few short months.  You add in the fact that there are 20 something other girls around and it is a crazy idea. Everyone got upset with Juan Pablo because he used Clare and must have said something vulgar and offensive to her, then wouldn't say he loved Nikki.  I really don't want to take up for him in any way, but Nikki's dad said he wouldn't give his blessing until Juan Pablo came back and knew 100% she was the one and only for him.  He didn't want to say "I love you" until he was sure.  To be fair, if I thought he was being cautious and respectful I could see where he didn't propose and didn't say he loved her in that small amount of time, but I think it is just an excuse in his case.  It was a little hard to feel sorry for Clare because if he was as rude as she said he was right before they got out of the helicopter then she should have done like Andi and left.  By the way, I am excited to have an Atlanta girl that won't put up with any nonsense as the next bachelorette.

     Yesterday I posted about the #banbossy idea.  I was telling my 20 year old daughter about it and she said she wasn't sure she agreed with it. She said that sometimes girls come across rude with bossiness and we owe it to them to tell them.  I can definitely see that point, but I really think the purpose of banning the word bossy is to encourage young girls to be confident and independent.  Being rude is a whole other word and that behavior shouldn't be encouraged.  My daughter really had me thinking and I wondered if I was seeing it correctly.  THEN, I watch The Bachelor and see two girls clearly lacking self esteem and desperately need to speak up.  Clare did at the end, but she would have said yes if he had proposed.  Anger caused her to speak up not self esteem.

     It wasn't completely the girls' fault.  He was very confusing.  He didn't want to kiss anyone because of his daughter and he didn't want to kiss Renee because she has a son. But, he went to her home for the hometown date and sent her home after meeting her son!  He also pounced on the fantasy suite dates.  This was really bad since he had given Clare a hard time after their night in the ocean.

     Juan Pablo is clearly a confused little boy trapped in a rather attractive man's body. His hot factor had cooled off by the end of the season, though.  I just feel for the girls, especially Nikki who he continues to make a fool of.  What bothers me most is that he is raising a daughter and clearly doesn't have much respect for women.

I wonder what he is referring to?  Awwww, it's okay.