Saturday, August 6, 2011

What Do You Do With The Ring?

     I have a question for all my divorced sisters out there.  This is a question most women need and want to know after a divorce, but I have put it off for a while.  What do you do with the ring?  The wedding ring, I mean.  Some women take the diamond and make another piece of jewelry out of it.  Some sale it.  Some continue to wear it, maybe on the other hand.

     What if the ring you are talking about wasn't bought by your ex?  What if your ex never bought you a ring, period, and you bought it yourself?  Then, does it make more sense to still wear it?  I bought my ring myself, not with mutual savings, all by myself from my own individual account.  I picked it out by myself and paid for it by myself.  I let him get the credit out of respect.  But since mutual respect isn't flowing these days, I would like to know what is acceptable.  I have not worn it for quite some time mainly because I didn't want to give ANYBODY WHATSOEVER the idea I was hanging on to anything.  I also didn't want to have to explain it if anyone noticed me wearing it even if it was on the other hand.  I enjoyed wearing it because it was something I picked out for myself. Since it wasn't given to me as a "wedding ring" and that isn't how I look at it should I still be able to wear it or should I find something else to do with it?  I would really like to know what other women, divorced or married, think.  Guys' advice is always welcome too!

2 comments:

ashlie said...

I think it's pretty common now for women to wear right-hand diamond rings. If it's a piece that you love that much, and that you worked hard for, I say wear it. Who cares if someone asks about it - you can just tell them what it is, a gift to yourself. You'll always have it to pass down to your kids one day.

April said...

Thank you so much! Having it to pass down sounds really good. When my grandparents on my dad's side got divorced his mother gave hers to my aunt. She wore it the whole time I was growing up, then when my grandmother passed away, my aunt gave it to me and I wear it sometimes. I like the idea of wearing it and having it later to give to my daughter. I think that has been in the back of my mind and why I haven't wanted to change it. Thank you for your advice. I really appreciate it!