Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Kim Kardashian Is this a new generation of marriage/relationships?

     Kim Kardashian spent more time planning her wedding than the marriage lasted.  A lot of people are wondering if the whole thing was real or just for her reality show.  I think it was real to begin with.  I watch the show and have a strange fascination with the whole family.  I should be embarrassed to say that, but, hey, I don't get out much, only concentrate on my kids, so I guess there are worse things I could do.

     Have you heard the jokes already about things lasting longer than Kim's marriage?

                   According to Twitter, here are a few other things:
  • From @Seth_Rogen: "Kim Kardashian's 'singing career.'"
  • From @lizzwinstead: "The flavor in a stick of Fruit Stripe Gum."
  • From @PBSGwen: "Herman Cain at #1 in the polls."
  • From @TobeyMonster: "[Lady] Gaga's real name."
  • From @ChristyAnderson: "However long it took to find Nemo."
  • From @AshJed: "Dora the Explorer's pause, when she is waiting for you to answer her question."
  • From @A_MgDee: "The hashtag #ThingsLongerThanKimsMarriage."
  • And of course, from @SoVeryAwkward: "That awkward moment when the list of #ThingsLongerThanKimsMarriage is longer than Kim's marriage."

Kim Kardashian Files for Divorce from Kris Humphries

     I know marriages in Hollywood don't normally last long, but I am wondering if there is a whole new generation of short lived relationships in the making.  Things are so different than they were years ago when people got married.  Divorce was considered taboo and nobody wanted to be a single mom.  If you got pregnant before marriage, you disgraced your family and was shipped off somewhere.  Today, women don't even go the old fashioned way about even getting pregnant.  You can just skip being with a guy physically all together.

     Maybe things are just too easy and since divorced people are the majority, leaving long lasting marriages in the minority, nobody puts a lot of effort into making a relationship last.

     I don't personally like being a divorced, single mom.  That wasn't in my plan.  Although, being married to a giant ass wasn't part of the plan either so I will take my situation over being miserable.  I do admire couples that respect one another enough to stay together.  I think that is the key, respecting each other.  Love that starts out as lust fades, and sometimes it is really hard to love someone you are with all the time.  But, if you have respect for that person you can pretty much weather anything.  I think that is what is missing is genuine respect for the person you have promised in front of God to stay with until death do you part.

     I can see a whole new generation of either divorces or single people in the future. Forget about people being together a long time.  That is a big deal and something to be proud of, but we may see more single people than even married at all before long.  My two older kids are in high school and things are so different than when I was in high school.  That was over 20 years ago, but not 100!  Not enough time has passed to change the way teens date, or should I say not date, compared to years ago.  It is so hard for me to comprehend relationships between teens.  I won't say all, but most teen boys will not ask a girl out, pick her up at her home (walking to the door is great but just picking her up is a plus today), and take her somewhere and bring her home.  I am just totally confused at how strange this is. Kids just "meet up" or whatever.  I don't get how they don't seem to care if they date at all.  Boys used to be aggressive and beg you to go out with them, now they just avoid and ignore the idea.  All the ew ways of communication doesn't help either because now a boy and girl don't even have to actually talk to each other.  Ignoring is way too easy too.  I don't know if because so many kids are from broken homes that they just don't see the purpose of a real relationship or what it is, but it makes no sense to me. 

     As frustrated as I get with the boys my daughter's age, and I get really frustrated for her and her friends, I also have a 15 year old boy and can kind of see where they are coming from.  Kids are so overwhelmed with school, sports, if they have to work, and any extra curricular activities that I don't think they want to be bothered or take the time to have to commit to anyone. When they do get a break they don't want to be hassled with impressing someone.  They would much rather hang out with their guy friends. I know with my daughter, she would like to go on a date, have someone to go to things with, but as far as being with someone 24/7 she isn't interested in that.  She likes to do her own thing and have time to herself. But, I think there are some cases where some girls (and guys) are so clingy and needy that it ruins it for those that just want something less serious.  It is like this new generation is scared to be tied down or have to commit in any way to anything.  I know they are just in high school, but I have watched and it doesn't seem to get a whole lot better as they enter their early 20's.

     Manners are a lot different too.  My kids will make plans and then they change constantly.  It drives me crazy.  Used to, when you were invited somewhere and said you would be there you went.  If someone called you, you returned the call. You wouldn't choose to just ignore someone. If it was the day of something and you decided at the last minute you didn't really want to go, tough!  You went anyway.  If you didn't, people got their feelings hurt or were offended and it made you look bad.  That isn't the case today.  When my kids change plans I worry to death about the changes, but in their words, "It's no big deal."  It doesn't bother them to change plans at the last minute or have someone else change on them. 

     I have gone way off of this subject, but it just seems that any kind of commitment or "stick to it 'ness" is really lacking nowadays.  We are going to be in a world with these future adults who won't stick with a job, partner, or anything else.  I don't see how you change it, but it sure does make me miss the way things used to be, and in my opinion, the way they should be.

     Good luck to Kim K and Kris Humphries.  (I will say that would have probably been a deal breaker for me to date a guy with the same name and spelling as my mom.  Kim's mom is Kris Jenner.)  This is big news now, but I am sure we will be talking about their new relationships and break ups and new relationships and break ups, and so on by Thanksgiving.

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