Well, I can say one thing for myself, I am not afraid to just put myself out there and try something new with the risk of making a fool of myself. That is what I did with this blog. Unfortunately, I have a lot of examples of the risks ending up in me looking like a complete fool. Thankfully, this is not one of them. I have called it cheap therapy several times and I feel like that is exactly what it is. I love talking about my family, but it is also a chance for me to just get things out. Since my divorce 4 years ago, I have learned a lot about myself and have changed some. In some ways, I feel like I have gotten back to the old me which was kind of lost there for a while being in a very unhappy situation. In some ways, I have been forced to grow up a little and find my independence. One thing is for sure, my faith is stronger than ever. I don't know how anyone gets by without it. The unfortunate part is that after being a stay at home mom all these years I have found it almost impossible to begin a career at 41 years old. If it wasn't hard enough already, it certainly is so with a terrible economy.
Even though I am still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, I have stumbled on a love for making jewelry. It is a really personal thing for me. I don't just put together something to try to sell it, I really put my heart and time into everything I do. Part of it is pride because I want it to look good, part of it is because most of the time I know who I am selling it to, and then there is the creative outlet. I feel like the best part of making my pieces is that I can express myself through creativity. I think we all do that in some way. Maybe through a love of sports, hobbies, or anything that lets you just be you.
Moms are always going through changes no matter what your situation is. Your children grow and with each stage you have to adapt and grow with them. Maybe you go through a divorce, get back into the workforce, or even if you are fortunate enough to be with the same spouse for many years there are definitely changes there too! Retired individuals don't know what to do with themselves after years of working, and stay at home moms eventually find an empty nest. We are constantly reinventing ourselves.
I put myself out there through this blog and I am so glad and thankful that I did. I have found that if you take a chance and are just honest, you will find there are a lot more people who can relate to you and you can never have too much support. I love the feedback I get from being on here. Especially so when someone else realizes they too are not alone.
I have my jewelry in different places. I have a shop at my brother's office, I have a facebook page, I have a blog for it attached to this one, and I have a shop at Etsy. I put myself out there again yesterday on Etsy. You can start a team with other members and I did just that. There are really neat ones for specific things and of course there are several teams for moms. I started a team titled "Moms Reinventing Themselves." It is a team for moms who use their creativity as they are constantly changing with the role of being a mom. We get lost in taking care of everyone else, our situations change and can overwhelm us, or sometimes we are just looking for something to do so we don't forget who we are. Whatever the reason may be, using your creativity to express yourself, work through difficult times, or even just use as an outlet to keep your sanity being creative has many benefits. I was scared starting the team, I have a lot to learn about how it works, but I already have a few members and through our first discussion thread I am excited about the things we have in common.
If any of you have an Etsy shop or know someone who does and you think they would be interested please let them know about the team, Moms Reinventing Themselves. Starting something new is always a little scary and definitely makes me nervous, but as the saying goes "you'll never know if you don't try."
“You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” -Wayne Gretzy
“Even if you stumble, you’re still moving forward.”
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” -Marilyn Monroe
“Use what talents you possess, the woods will be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang best.” -Henry van Dyke
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” -Tony Robbins
“All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them.” –Walt Disney
“If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” -Steve Jobs, Stanford commencement address 2005
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” –Elbert Hubbard
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” –Michael Jordan
“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.” –Unknown
And, my personal favorite. A quote from my grandfather, Tom Ed "100 years from now we'll never know the difference."