Thursday, June 28, 2012

What The Heck, Emily?





What in the world was Emily thinking????? She is such a good judge of character and nobody is usually able to fool her, but I think Chris did. He just seems so desperate. I don't think it really matters, in the end, though. I don't think she would have ended up picking Wolf John, so she might as well have sent him home.

I just think it was totally unfair for Chris to be able to talk to her. I guess John could have spoke up, but again, I don't think it matters. I am really a little bit confused by Arie. I don't think he was meaning to hide his past relationship with the producer. He may have even thought it would hurt him if Emily thought he pulled strings to get him on the show. That would have probably looked more shady. I don't know. This season is a little more hopeful than some, but it is hard to find somebody in this situation in this little bit of time.

I feel bad for Doug, but I don't think it was going ANYWHERE. The only thing they had in common was being single parents. It is hard to blend families and I think she is more interested in building one than blending. These days, you have to be just as careful about the kids of someone you are dating coming around your children as you do the men you date. Especially when you have a young girl. That's terrible, but it is just the way it is.

I think Jef with one "f" might have just slid into the lead. Or should I say skated into the lead. I like Sean, but there is still something about him that I can't figure out. He is very good looking, but something bugs me. It's easier to sit back and see things, though, isn't it?

I like Jef with one "f". He seems sincere and if the magazines are right, his dad is loaded. He should really get along with Ricki. He is the human version of Jimmy Neutron!

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Friday, June 22, 2012

My Little McGyver




     It gets harder and harder to get things accomplished.  If you try to resolve things over the phone, you get automated services that give you the run-a-round, if they don't disconnect you.  It isn't easy to get to talk to a person and a lot of times that doesn't work either.

     AT&T has given me fits this week.  I have tried to make it easy and resolve THEIR problem over the phone, but it didn't work.  For starters, when you use the English option, it helps that you actually speak to someone who speaks English as their first language and without a heavy accent you can't understand. 

     I decide I am getting nowhere so I go try to get things resolved in person.  The lady who helped me was very nice and very helpful, but I wasted my morning at the AT&T store trying to fix THEIR mistake.  Things just shouldn't be so hard.  What ever happened to the customer is always right?  Which, in this case, I actually was!

     I had the boys with me and they weren't happy to waste all that time either.  When we finally left the store and got into the car, my "little McGyver", Stratton, told me how he decided to show them how much fun wasted time is.  He set 4 random display phones and 2 tablets alarms to go off throughout the day. He said by the time they get to one, it will be time for another. They gave us so much extra time in there, he decided to use it.




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     I might not should think that is funny, but I do.  He gets it good and honest, though.  My dad and his dad would have done something like that.  My dad is a complete jokester and isn't happy unless he is aggravating somebody.  His dad, my grandfather Tom Ed, was the same way.  A few years ago, he had just eaten a new Hardee's chicken sandwich and was explaining it to my dad.  He told him he liked it, but it had the "funniest tasting pickle" on it.  Well, it was a Hawaiian chicken sandwich with a pineapple on it.  That was the funny tasting pickle.  My dad decided to tease him about it using the next generation of pranksters.  He got Stratton to call him.  He called and asked him if he had tried Hardee's new chicken sandwich.  My grandfather completely unaware of what was going on completely fell for it.  "Yeah, I have," he said.  Then, Stratton said, "I liked it, but it had the funniest tasting pickle on it."  If I remember it right, Tom Ed hung up on him.  It wasn't much long after that Stratton had a birthday.  I think Tom Ed had been just waiting for the right time to get him back.  He gave him a birthday card with $1 in it.

     So, I guess I should blame Stratton's genes for his joking nature.  Either way, I still think it is funny!

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

God Is Watching

    


     The Lord definitely works in mysterious ways. Sometimes I wonder why people who don't do the right thing get away with it and seem to go unpunished. I know God sees our good and bad deeds, but some people just seem lucky. It can appear, at times, much easier to choose the wrong path, but not so much in the long run.  I just get tired of seeing people get away with doing bad things. NOT the guy who lives in this house!



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His house was hit by a tree, but thankfully he and his children got out safely.  He was arrested later, though.  WHY???????  When help arrived, the police found an allegedly stolen pickup truck in his driveway.



 I saw this on the news last week and it proves that God does see everything and when we think others are getting away with something, maybe we should think again.


Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Croatia Vs. Scotland




     I am not even going to act like I am really smart and know all about other countries.  I am blonde, remember?

     The only thing I really know about Croatia is from the tv show ER.  Remember cute Dr. Luka Kovac?  He was from there and didn't really talk about it much.  He was an emotional wreck due to the violence and war from his homeland.


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     The only kind of knowledge I have about Scotland is from the movie Braveheart.


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     It does seem that hot  guys come from both places so maybe that is why last night's episode of The Beachelorette was in Croatia, but they watched the animated movie Brave about Scotland. There seemed to be a lot of similarity in the two places. That is all I can figure out. 

     I could have done without the bipolar look, though.  The guys were in muscle shirts and....................kilts.  As Jef with one "f" put it, there isn't really much difference between a skirt and kilt.  They looked really tough from the waist up and then had on skirts to finish the look.

THE BACHELORETTE - "Episode 806" - Six men meet Emily in old town Dubrovnik, where she takes them to a breathtaking historic theater. There they are treated to a VIP sneak peek of Disney¥Pixar's highly anticipated new film "Brave" (in theaters June 22). The men had better be paying attention because afterwards, mimicking the movie, they will be asked to dress in kilts and compete in their own Highland Games. The bachelors fire arrows, throw logs and test each other's strength. Although one bachelor dominates the competition, another wins over Emily with his persistence in the face of defeat. The after party finds one handsome man taking Emily on an intimate walk and talk in the streets of Dubrovnik, while another brave suitor offers the Bachelorette his heart, on "The Bachelorette," MONDAY, JUNE 18 (8:00-10:02 p.m., ET), on the ABC Television Network. (ABC/NICK RAY)CHRIS, ARIE, JEF, EMILY MAYNARD, JOHN, SEAN, DOUG
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The only one who might have appreciated the look and wasn't there was Ryan.  What the heck is in his wardrobe?  Did he steal Emily's tank top?

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     I am so glad she sent him home.  Now he will have time to be the President of his own fan club.  He did try to manipulate her and not go home easily, but I am glad she didn't budge.  I have a feeling he would be completely demanding and degrading in real life.  That, and they evidently would be fighting over razors.  Does he really shave the hair on his fingers?  Oh well, I am just glad we only have editing to blame for him coming across as an arrogant jerk.  HA!!!  I love how he said, when the other guys were on the group date, that he "had a good day, spending time alone, that is all he really wanted."  That isn't weird or creepy at all!  What was extremely creepy were those turquoise shoes he picked out to wear and the way all of his clothes were hanging just perfect, his shoes all in a line, and the iron right there with them.  It reminded me of the movie Sleeping With The Enemy.

     I felt bad for Travis, but I don't think I could have ever gotten past the deal with him and the egg.  Chris got the rose, but it was more of a pity rose.  Only a mom would appreciate an effort more than the performance.

     I always wonder when one of the contestants go to the Bachelor or Bachelorette's room how they know where they are.  It was a bold move and there seems to be so much of a bromance with all of the men didn't anyone notice Arie was gone?

     I was tricked at the end.  I really thought she was going to send John and Doug home.  Heck, it looked like for a minute Chris might get the rose.  He is now, or about to be, single.  Is he eligible to be the next Bachelor?  It seems like every season at least one of the contestants knows a producer or someone with the show, so Chris could either be the bachelor or a contestant for the next Bachelorette.  That is what magazines are saying about Arie.  They claim he knows a producer that Emily is friends with.  I really hope it doesn't mess up his chances.  I think he may still be in the lead, but Jef with one "f" is close behind.  I was trying to listen to him tell her why it took so long to kiss her, but I couldn't stop looking at his hair.  It is sort of a mohawk, but I have to say I am jealous of the volume and body he has in it.

     I'll say it again, I am just glad she sent Ryan home.  She just might want to check her suitcase though, I am sure he took some of her wardrobe home with him!

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

I Knew It!




     I knew Kalon would be the one to call Ricki baggage.  It was kind of funny the way he bluntly said he wasn't going to apologize for it.  I don't know why it was funny, but it was.  As soon as he said it, me and Sydney just started laughing.  I think he wanted to be the bad guy thinking it would keep him around, but it backfired.

     I don't agree with Emily getting upset or thinking she was disrespected by the guys for not telling her what Kalon said.  We have learned that tattling gets you nowhere on this show.  With Ben,  the Emily on his season, kept trying to tell him about Courtney but it just made him irritated with her.  I think they were afraid to be the one to bring it to Emily's attention and be seen as the one to cause to drama.

     I do have to say, it is gross enough watching her kiss different guys in one night, but it was even more so with her having a cold.  They will just be spreading it around.  And poor Jef with one "f" waited for what he thought was the right time to kiss her and it happened to be when she was sick!



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     I still think Arie is in the lead, but I also think there is a lot more to her and Jef with one "f".  That relationship seems very sincere and she obviously likes him.  Ryan is just a butt kisser!  He is going to do and say whatever he thinks she wants to hear.  He still gets on my nerves.  And what in the heck was he wearing?

THE BACHELORETTE - "Episode 805" - Eight lucky bachelors meet Emily at Stratford-upon-Avon on a group date. Some of men embrace the opportunity to become thespians for the day, acting in scenes from Shakepeare's famous "Romeo and Juliet." Emily hopes they all have a blast, since part of being a parent is learning to go with the flow. A confident Ryan relishes playing Romeo and having the opportunity to kiss Emily for the first time. Arie is terrified when he discovers he must dress like a woman to portray the nurse. Kalon is so fixated on his performance, he shoos Emily away so he can get more rehearsal time. The live audience that gathers gets a lot of laughs as the men perform their scenes with Emily playing Juliet, but Ryan's kiss as Romeo rocks the rest of the guys to their core, on "The Bachelorette," MONDAY, JUNE 11 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET), on the ABC Television Network. (ABC/NICK RAY)RYAN, EMILY MAYNARD
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     I did impress Sydney with my Shakespeare knowledge.  As soon as they read the date card I told her where they were going.  She knows how much I love literature.  I had a problem with my math skillz over the weekend, so I had to make up for being a complete idiot in that area.


Sunday, June 10, 2012

I Know I Am Not In Control........

     I know I am not in control, I know I am not in control, I know I am not in control....

Maybe if I write that on the blackboard (do they even have those anymore?!) 100 times it will sink in!

     People have all kinds of different things they use as security devices like blankets, lucky charms, pacifiers, etc.  I have figured out mine is my kids.  No joke.  I just don't feel "right" when we aren't all together.  They are getting older and I am not supposed to have them around all the time, but it doesn't make it any easier.

     My daughter, Miss Social Butterly, is always doing something.  I am so glad she has so many different friends and is always on the go.  Sometimes  A lot of times, she is out doing volunteer work so I really shouldn't complain about that at all. 

     My older son is away at football camp.  I am REALLY glad he is able to go and be with teammates and the coaches, but it feels weird not having him at home.  I have realized how much more free time I have, though, not feeding him 24/7!  He went to this same camp last year and he still talks about it, so I know he is having a blast.

     My younger son stays at my brother or sister's house playing with cousins.  That is good too because they are more like siblings than cousins.  He does love to torment my sister, though.  I swear some days she is going to send him home and not let him back in!  He teases her about her cooking and anything else that he knows gets to her.

     I don't think I will ever not worry about the kids with they aren't with me.  I have to remind myself that even though I think I am in control, I am not.  God is.  And whether they are with me or out on their own I am not now, or have ever been in control.  I kind of think about it like I have been a chaperone all this time.  BUT, it doesn't make it any easier on my nerves when I worry way more than I should.  It has just been the four of us for quite some time and I have gotten used to it being that way.  We are very close, but I just don't feel whole when we aren't all together.  I know that's silly, but I have been a stay at home mom for so many years that I don't know anything but being with them and taking care of them.

     They are so sweet, though, and always encourage me to get out and do things.  I would like to think they are just thinking about me, but I have come to the conclusion of what it really is.  They want me to have other things going on so they can feel better and not like they are leaving me when they do eventually move out and do the things they are supposed to.  They are weaning me instead of the other way around.

     My grandmother and grandfather divorced when I was really little and she used to float from house to house with her three children and their families.  She had two boys and a girl too, but her's were the opposite with my aunt being the youngest.  I always thought that looked pretty good!  She would have dinner with a different family each night and tagged along with the family that happened to be taking a vacation.  My dad, aunt, and uncle wouldn't have had it any other way, though.  She was always so much fun to be around and I can't imagine growing up with her not around.

So....................... even though I may not be in control, I can still be at somebody's dinner table or in the car of whoever is taking a trip!  They can't get rid of me that easily!



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Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Just Desserts

    
     We all had dinner at my mom's house Sunday night.  We always have a good time and with all the kids it is always entertaining.

     I honestly don't think I could love my nieces and nephews any more if they were mine.  They are all so different and have different personalities.  I work really hard at my relationship with each of them.  The kind of relationship I have with them is my responsibility and I know I will get out of it what I put into it.

     They are all really sweet and REALLY funny.  You never know what any of them will say next.  I know if I want an honest answer which one to ask and if I am looking to be pampered and loved on which one to go to.  They definitely make life fun!

     The kids have their own table, which most of them try to sneak to the adult table, so we sometimes end up playing musical chairs through dinner.  Sometimes they just shift around for dessert.

     That is what happened Sunday night.  My 5 year old nephew, Macalister, came and sat by me while he was eating his dessert.  He had a nice piece of chocolate cheesecake and was loving it.  With a big 'ole bite in his mouth he looked over at me and said in his very husky voice for a 5 year old:

     "They call this cake, but it tastes more like pie."

     I thought I was going to lose my dinner I was laughing so hard.  It was funny, but it was also a really good point!





Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Sorry, Charlie



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NO!!!      Emily let Charlie go!

     Maybe she didn't see herself with him, but I don't think he got a fair shot at all. He just seemed so sweet and sincere. He has my vote for the next Bachelor!

      I also felt bad for Nate. I know she felt he was too young, but you've gotta love a guy that gets that emotional talking about family and loved ones. At least he showed her how much family means to him. I don't think Michael ever really had a connection with her. What he said when he left was the most I heard him say the whole time!

      Ryan is such a joke. He is like the guitar playing guy in Animal House. You just want him to shut up!






      I knew he seemed fake. I would be mad if I was her about some of the things he said. He always talks kind of down to her like he is lecturing her. I was glad to hear her say she thought he was manipulative, at least he isn't fooling her. I don't know why she kept him, though. He made it obvious last night he just wants to be the next Bachelor.

      I don't think I like Chris or Doug very much. Chris has bully tendencies and Doug is definitely hiding something. There is something dark about him besides his eyes. He has the all black-looking eyes like demons or bad guys do in the movies. My dad calls them "dead eyes" when they look like that.

      Arie is still my favorite. I like Jef with one "f" too. I think Emily has a connection with him that we have only seen a small part of.

      Next week looks really good! It is the episode where she gets really mad and says the big bad word. It looks like she does so because someone calls Ricki baggage. Wonder who it is? My guess is Kalon. He should know about baggage. Or luggage that is. It's like one of the guys said, you have to wonder about a guy who has Louis Vuitton luggage! That just don't seem right.





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Sunday, June 3, 2012

Something Is Missing






     Being a single mom is hard. It can be very overwhelming at times. I love my kids more than anything in the world and they are my life so anything I do for them is just part of me and I don't consider it anything extra. That's my life above and beyond anything else. But, it isn't always easy. Even co-parenting is hard but when you are in it completely 100% alone, it is hard.

      I rely on my family and they never disappoint, but the biggest thing I rely on is my faith. If God believes I can do this then I have to believe it too. He put me in charge of three very sweet, special people and I don't want to let them or Him down. I have my personal relationship with God and I have very strong convictions and beliefs, but one thing is missing. My church. I say it is "my" church because it is the only church I have ever belonged to. My children are fifth generation church members and although we need a new building, the one we are in has a lot of special memories in it for me. I say it is missing because even though it is great when a church grows it is not so great when there is total chaos in it. It has been a victim of pastors using it as a stepping stone for their own agenda and a group of members who just to be honest don't know what they are doing but making a total mess out of everything. We had a pastor that worked his tail end off getting us out of debt, ministering to the members in every way, being a great leader but fell prey to a group that, again, are clueless in their endeavor. I have lost MY church because, although I have fought and stood up for what I felt was right, I don't like to sit in a worship service with hard feelings. AND, I know that isn't very Christian of me, but things have been done that we're just simply uncalled for. These people even fight with and talk about one another.

      I stuck it out hoping and praying for things to get better. I am stubborn that way, but if it is possible, things only get worse. All I know is not being in church is not okay with me. It does my heart so good that it is not okay with my kids either. If I have only done one thing right I have guided them to have their own relationship with God and they now nurture it independently. We will find somewhere new that we feel we belong and maybe one day MY church will be a much more pleasant place where people get along rather than constant chaos. Until then, I have to take care of my relationship with God and see that my kids have a place to do the same. Every day we face struggles and strife. It is easy to get caught up in things, even get bitter about things we feel we don't have control of. That's why it is so important to get reeled back in and reminded before starting another week. My outlook on the new week is totally different, so much more peaceful and positive, when I get that reminder and message of where my head and heart should be.

     During all the graduation events, my favorite was the Inspiration Service. I was sitting around a lot of people that mean a lot to me. Some new friends and some old ones. The message was given to the graduates as they make their way into the world, but it was a sermon everyone in the room regardless of age could get something out of it. That is what I miss. A spiritual, inspirational message.


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      I started writing this blog for me more than anything, but I have gotten so much more out of it. I have met through here some great people I probably wouldn't have met otherwise. Like I said above, being a single parent is very hard and I certainly believe in helping each other in any way we can. We all have different situations and bring our own ways to help one another to the table. In my post yesterday, I put a link at the bottom of the page. I briefly looked at it before adding it, but I have had time to read more of it. This is a really neat lady who has a lot of positive and encouraging things to say.

      Her address is www.katdasilva.com.

      She gives personal help and has a really good blog that is very honest about some of the things single moms face. I just wanted to add it again because if we don't help and support each other it makes a difficult situation even more overwhelming and isolating. If any of you have information you think would be helpful please post it in a comment.


      Kat has some very good quotes on her page, but I think I like this one the best:

 "Remove those 'I want you to like me' stickers from your forehead and, instead, place them where they truly will do the most good - on your mirror!"---Susan Jeffers

Saturday, June 2, 2012

Maybe I Shouldn't Joke



 
     The weather is great today.  It isn't too hot or humid which is unusual for Georgia!  I am still a little stuck inside though.  I have another week or two before I am allowed to go swimming according to my doctor.  They want to make sure everything has had plenty of time to heal but it is killing me!  My mom has a pool and everyone is at it, including all my kids and nieces and nephews and I can't get in with them.  I can enjoy the company, but it is torture not being able to get in.  Mom had to get a new liner and it is really blue and makes the water look even better than last year.  The kids get out and I am even smelling them and their hair which smells just like the pool!  She uses salt water, but there is just no smell like a pool.  They should make a scented candle out of it.  I would buy it.  Especially now!

     I don't have much longer, though.  It is just hard because the summer goes by so fast and I don't want to miss any of it.  I am also having a little trouble after a minor complication with my surgery.  I can't seem to get rid of a bladder infection.  I have to be careful just sitting outside because I have been on antibiotics for a while and I will burn in a short time even with sunscreen.  Speaking of antibiotics, I have always made the joke that with my sinuses and frequent bronchitis that I have to be close to being immune to them.  I have also always joked that one day I am going to die of something simple like a bladder infection because none of them will work anymore.  Hmmmmmm.........  Maybe I shouldn't have joked about that!










One of the readers posted this on my facebook page The Sisterhood of Spiritual Single Moms if any of you are interested in checking it out!

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