I don't know if I am going to be able to express my point effectively, but I am going to try anyway. First, I want to say that my faith is the most important thing to me. I haven't had the easiest time in the last few years, but my faith has only gotten stronger. I know there is a reason and a plan for everything and it isn't for me to question. I know that, but at the same time, I can't help but "think" about things. I don't really think I believe in accidents. I think God has a direct hand in our lives and one day absolutely everything will make perfect sense. That isn't always easy to take in, but I have faith in it.
I believe that sometimes when someone really good and influential is taken from us, then maybe that loss might help bring others closer to God, or maybe it is to test and strengthen our own relationship with God. I think the things that happen to us and around us are far more purposeful than we can even imagine.
My kids have two friends that have suffered great loss this year. The first loss was a future dad and current role model. This person was a HUGE loss to a lot of people including my own kids. He stepped in at times as a father figure when my older son needed it. Now, these two havejust lost their real dad.
I think what bothers me the most when I hear things like this, besides knowing the heartbreak of two very sweet, good kids, is that there are a lot of dads walking around,even sometimes in the same town with their children,that don't have a thing to do with their own kids.
That situation I will never understand anyway. It is completely unnatural to emotionally, financially, and physically abandon your own flesh and blood. There are so many dads everyday that don't have the choice to see their kids grow up or be there for them in this world. Whether it is through illness or something that suddenly takes them from their family, it is not through their own choice to not be there for their children. That is so sad and unfortunate to me. I would be willing to bet that they would give absolutely anything to have the choice some dads take completely for granted.
I am not saying bad fathers are more "deserving" of any kind of fate because that is in God's hands. I don't believe parents or their children are being punished when they are taken too soon. There is a reason and I believe God takes special care of children missing parents. I just always think about the dads who are taken from their children without a choice and how unfair they must feel it is, as well as their children, when other men have that choice and just disregard it.
I probably feel this way and am thinking out loud today thinking about these two sweet kids who have lost so much. I know my kids are so sad for them. The thoughts that have crossed my mind have probably crossed my kids' minds also and that hurts my heart for them and kids in their shoes. It is just a tough situation and there isn't any kind of band aid to fix those kinds of things.