Thursday, August 1, 2013
Is Beiber Fever Breaking?
This article about Justin Beiber's Wednesday concert in New Jersey caught my eye. I like his music and he can really dance. The article was saying his performance was really poor. He didn't keep up with the music, half dancing, and seemed to be lip-syncing for part of the show.
There have been many stories lately about his behavior and how he is getting out of control. Even though he is 19, he just looks like a little boy to me. When musicians become famous at a young age it is hard for the public to ever see them as "grown up." Miley Cyrus is a good example. She is trying so hard to shed the Hannah Montana image she is going overboard in the wrong direction.
I think this article caught my eye because we are constantly seeing young stars act out the incredible amount of stress they have to be under. There is a long list of stars who have left this world at a much too young age. Recently, Cory Monteith was sadly added to this list.
It just makes me think about how hard it must be to be famous at such a young age. I look at "normal" kids in general and see how much pressure they can be under. Just keeping up with school and being competitive with sports and trying to get into a good college can take its toll on kids that aren't in the spotlight. I am probably the worst mom in the world, but I try so hard not to stress my kids out. They have been through a hard time, but so have a lot of other kids from broken homes. I know other parents are going to think I am terrible, but when it comes to school and grades I have a more relaxed attitude. Don't get me wrong, I won't allow them to put it aside and not try, but as far as striving for honors or AP classes, I don't force them. My theory is as long as they are good kids, hanging with the right crowd, making good grades in regular classes, and making right decisions, I am not going to put unnecessary pressure on them. My daughter took a couple of honors classes when she was in high school because she wanted to. My middle child has to work a little harder than my youngest to get good grades and was offered an honors class last year. He wanted to take it because in his words, "I have never been recommended for honors and may not again so I just want to say I took it at least once." Again, I may be a bad parent, but he was stressed in that class not because he couldn't keep up, he did great, it was just a lot of extra work. I have found my kids learn more in regular classes when they don't zone out or freak out because they feel overwhelmed in honors classes.
My daughter was involved in community service projects in high school and helped coach the middle school volley ball team. My boys play football and other sports. I know it is very competitive with sports and trying to get into a good college, but I believe kids today are under a lot more stress than when I was a kid.
The pressure can be great with just normal kids I cannot imagine how hard it must be for famous kids. People say that is the price of being famous, but I don't agree. At the end of the day they are just young people trying to grow and develop into a normal adult. I see what high expectations can do to everyday kids, the pressure of public expectations of kids in the spotlight has to be enormous.
We see the glamorous side of it, but there must be so much they go through keeping their social status that it is going to blow up at some point. Just to name a few off the top of my head, Lindsay Lohan, Brittney Spears, River Phoenix, Macauly Culkin, and now Amanda Bynes. We watch and shake our heads and say "what happened to them."
It is easy to criticize and express disappointment when these entertainers fail to entertain, but as a mom, all I see are stressed kids that are dealing with a grown up life way before they are grown, if they make it that far.
What do you think? How do you think kids can grow up not feeling so much stress and pressure?